I was having lunch in the cafeteria sometime back with two of my friends and we happened to engage in a very interesting discussion. It was just after recess and still taking in the news that one of our fellow students had died during the Coast recess trip. This led to a whole trip down memory lane and trying to figure out how many students had died in the past two years.
A couple of our befallen comrades had taken away their own lives and this was the basis of a very heated debate. One of my friends believed that student suicides are as a result of psychological issues stemming from one's family background. The other one believed that it's a personality thing; certain personality types are more vulnerable to such extreme behaviors. I, on the other hand, was sitted on the fence. I am still sitted there.
To avoid confusion, let's name my friends X and Y. X proposed it is as a result of one's family background while Y argued that it depends on one's personality type.
X explained that an individual from a stable home with very loving parents was less likely to commit suicide. Stable home here meant that both parents were present as the person was growing up, therefore the individual has less unresolved mummy and daddy issues. This directly translates to greater mental and psychological stability thus less risk of suicidal tendencies.
Loving parents who always encourage their kids is an added advantage because this gives the kids confidence and builds their self esteem. Her argument was that people with high self esteem are highly unlikely to take such extreme measures because it's hard for them to let issues really get to them.
Y on the other hand, proposed that it all depends on your personality type. Some people are raised up in very loving and stable homes but are still sensitive to issues. She explained that some personality types like melancholics are more likely to have suicidal tendencies because of their inability to express emotions. Phlegmatics and sanguines are less likely to commit suicide because they are generally emotional people and are capable of communicating their problems.
It's still hard for me to give my two cents on the whole matter because I am a melancholic from a very stable and loving family background and I do not have suicidal tendencies.
What's your take?
i think its a matter of the choices one makes...your family background might be a factor, but at the end of the day it all comes down to the choice one makes
ReplyDeletein all of your blogs i have noticed../being observant too/.. he he ,that the issue of suicide really troubles you but like Maryanne has said i really think it just depends on you and your choices it doesn't matter what family background you come from ,for some reason that's just an excuse , because guys have come from harsh parents and not committed suicide while on the other hand some come from loving parents and still committed suicide..its purely life choices personality really is a small percentage...i was thinking of Amanda Todd she committed suicide and being selfish and sad decision it still is what she decided check this out http://youtu.be/KRxfTyNa24A
ReplyDeletei do not think personality and family issues lead to suicide tendencies. it all boils down to how we deal with all situations we find ourselves in and the sort of relationships we entertain in our lives
ReplyDeleteI think both x and y are right...a stable family will give you a second thought to such a decision...however when you refuse to open up you end up frustrated and in turn commit suicide. Let it sink into every young person's mind that there is nothing new under the sun. You are not the first neither last to experience problems but you issues are unique to you and solvable by you!!!
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